After Perception, Diplomacy seems to be the skill used most often in my games. Any time your PC finds himself in a social situation you know that you’re going to end up making a Diplomacy check. But Diplomacy is more that just talking the talk. It’s usually about knowing what to say and how to say it. Your PC’s body language can also have as much of an impact as the words coming out of his mouth.
Most skills are versatile on their own, but since Diplomacy is generally opposed by Insight it’s probably a good idea to take training in both if your class allows it. Any time a PC is engaged in a back-and-forth dialogue they’ll probably end up using both skills, so taking training in both will greatly improve your chances of success.
Whenever a PC speaks the truth the appropriate skill is usually Diplomacy. As soon as they start leaving out details, deliberately withholding information or outright lying it starts to tread on the ground of Bluff. If you’re trained in Diplomacy but not in Bluff (we’re looking at you Paladins and Clerics) then it’s up to you to convince your DM that a Diplomacy check is still the right one given the circumstances. Letting the Rogue speak only when the party needs to tell a lie is going to be a pretty obvious “tell” that you’ve trying to mislead the king or swindle the merchant.
It’s important to remember that in many circumstances you’re only going to get one shot at a Diplomacy check, so you’d better be sure that you make the most of it. You wouldn’t want to ruin a diplomatic dinner because you drank the lemon scented water that you should have used to wash your fingers.
10 New Ways to Use Diplomacy
Sweet talk a lady
Gain the trust of a stranger
Defend the accused during a trial
Haggle over price with a merchant
Calm an angry mob
Write a letter of introduction.
Use proper heraldic titles
Use proper conduct
You may look like a rough and tumble adventuring type, but you possess a silver tongue.
He knows he shouldn’t trust you, but your words are so soothing and deliberately chosen that they appeal to his good nature and he helps you anyway.
Whether you’re giving a dramatic reading or making a political speech, you know just how to act and what to say to win over the crowd.
You manipulate your response to side-step the actual question and provide facts or an account that the prosecutor was hoping to avoid revealing.
You ask questions in such a way that the witness reveals more detail than they expected to.
You find some common ground with the merchant. This might include mimicking his accent, mannerisms or gestures in order to seem more like a local or a trusted friend. He reluctantly agrees to give you a good price.
Your voice booms over the angry crowd and delivers the claming words they need to hear. Members of the mob question their involvement in whatever act led them to join the mob in the first place. Shame is a powerful weapon.
Your diplomatic skills are not limited to oratory. Your mastery of the written word impresses scholars or dignitaries and grants you access to areas not normally open to strangers.
Knowing what to say is one thing, but sometimes using the appropriate title when speaking to a duke, count, magistrate or even the upper nobility is a skill in and of itself. Using the correct title may give you a second shot at making your point if you flub the first Diplomacy check.
Sometimes knowing how to act is more important than saying the right words. Knowing which fork to use at dinner, remembering that the colour yellow is offensive in this culture or shaking hands with your left instead of your right hand are the kinds of little details that keep you from causing a serious social blunder.
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